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Tuesday, January 9, 2007

How To Change How You Feel

How do you feel right now? Did you know you can easily change that feeling?

It has been well documented that the way we think about things has a direct impact on their outcomes. You’ve probably heard it or read it somewhere several times, and this is because it's true. So the next time you are feeling bad, depressed, angry, or anything less than happy, realize that you don’t have to feel that way.

Although it may seem a bit too simple, the fact is that you control your own thoughts. No one else outside of you controls what you think or how you feel. And while it is normal to have occasional thoughts of fear, anger, etc., you cannot let these types of thoughts become your dominant ones, because eventually they will affect your overall state of mind.

This is because thoughts breed similar thoughts. Whether they are positive or negative, whatever types of thoughts you are thinking have a tendency to multiply into more of the same. Think of your mind as a garden: if you plant seeds, the seeds will grow into plants and will multiply themselves. Your garden does not care what is planted – whether it is the seeds of beautiful flowers or poison ivy, it will cause them to grow just the same.

Your mind is the same way. If you plant positive thoughts, they will multiply themselves, just as negative thoughts will.

You have the ability to attach whatever meanings you want to the various events that happen to you each day. Because of this incredible power, you are able to determine how an event will affect you. You can either allow things to affect you in ways that empower you, or ways that debilitate you. You also have the power to decide that something will not affect you at all.

It’s a very empowering feeling when you fully grasp the fact that you can control how you feel by controlling your thoughts. This is why it’s important to try to think positive thoughts as much as possible – because they create more positive thoughts. And our thoughts are what create our feelings.

So here are some ways that you can change your state of mind from negative to positive. The thing to keep in mind is that all you really need to do is to improve your thoughts a little to improve how you feel. The key is to find a thought that is better than the one that is making you feel bad.

One quick way to find better thoughts and feelings is to “go to gratitude” as I like to say. This basically just means making a list of things that you are thankful for and wouldn’t change for the world. If you’ve read any of my other articles, you’ll notice this as a reoccurring theme in my writing. This is because I’ve found practicing gratitude to be one of the biggest factors that led to improvements in my life and many others that I have helped. These could be things like thinking about your children, your spouse, your home, your health, or anything that is a big positive in your life.

What you are essentially doing is putting things in perspective. There is absolutely no way that thoughts that are producing how you feel can stack up against the “cornerstones” in your life. Am I right, or am I right?

Other ways to improve your feeling is by changing your physical state. Go for a brisk walk or run, do some pushups or some other form of exercise.

You can also improve the way you are feeling by doing something that makes you happy or makes you laugh. It could be remembering a situation when someone - your spouse, your child, or one of your friends - did something crazy or silly to make you laugh. It could be something in a movie or a tv show that made you laugh.

The point is, you know what makes yourself tick. You know the things that make you happy and the things that produce positive feelings. It's important to realize that when you are feeling bad, you have the ability to change how you are feeling quickly by simply changing your thoughts.

Everything in life is a choice. Since you have the ability to choose how you think and feel, doesn't it make sense to choose to feel happy? Keep these things in mind, change your thinking when you realize you can feel better, and I promise you will. When you can consistently control how you think and feel, you can begin to create the kind of life you want to live, versus reacting to what life gives you.

That feels better, doesn't it?

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